“My Father’s Welsh and my Mother is Filipino, which makes me a Halfie”, says Megan Thomas.
Megan is half Welsh and half Filipino, and is born in Hong Kong. Not being familiar with the local language, Megan struggles on finding her belonging in Hong Kong. Yet, she constantly thinks positive on trying to build other people up, in order to help them find their ‘home’.
Call me Megan, I recently turned 18 (finally!) and I was born in Hong Kong. My father is Welsh and my mother is Filipino, which makes me a “halfie”.
Whenever I tell people I’m from Hong Kong they get confused because I have an American accent, and I can neither speak Cantonese nor Mandarin. In a weird way, that makes me feel like I don’t belong in Hong Kong, even though I know Hong Kong from the back of my head.
What does ‘home’ mean to you?
Home is where I find fulfillment, there are times where I would eat something amazing and do something that I am proud of. And just being around people, that’s what makes me happy. At the moment this is what I call fulfillment, but usually I end up finding it wherever I go.
“finding fulfillment is first being okay with whom you are as a person”
In my opinion, in order to find fulfillment, you must first be okay with whom you are as a person. You need to know when to step out of your comfort zone, and again knowing when you should be back in it.
My mentality is my home and it is one of the places that I can find the most of it. Constantly thinking positively and trying to build others up can help find their ‘home’, and as well as finding yours too.
Do you think it’s important to feel like you belong to a certain place or a group of people? Why or why not?
I don’t think it is important to feel like you are supposed to belong somewhere (not for me at least). I grew up with an independent mindset, yet I get along easily with other people and tend to make ‘friends’ quickly. However, because of my need for independence, I try not to rely on anybody and prefer to do things on my own, and this puts me in a difficult position with my group of friends.
I used to be in a ‘group’ that I would hang out during the weekends; but we were all family friends. We were all in different ages, attended different schools, and lead different lives. As time went on, this arrangement became more difficult to meet up as we became busy with work. At the moment I also work two jobs, which earns me more than what my parents earn combined (as one of my parents had retired). This being said, I have four different ‘groups’ that I could be a part of – my friends, my first job, and my second job.
“I like being a Floater, and thats what I’ll always be.”
You are probably reading this and thinking “but Megan, you’ve only mentioned three?”, I consider my independence with the 4th group, which brings me back to saying “it is not important to feel like I need to be part of a group”. I like being a Floater, and thats what I will always be.
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